Human body language is lavishly rich; but least understood. It is the only language, which cuts across all cultures, castes, creeds and countries and is most universal; yet least developed! Everyone uses it through his/her expressions and gets an impression or comprehension for same spontaneously; but usually ignorant of its correct meaning. It is the most omniscient; yet very obscure to most at the same time!
Simplest definition of body language is “Reflection of your inner self in the form of expressions on outer self”. Whenever you look at anyone, you get an impression or idea. This impression or idea indicates how you have understood that person through his/her body language at that point of time.
Never undermine significance of learning to read and speak body language – reading applies to read others and speaking applies to how you can show your own self. It is the most significant mean to respond, judge and manage people and self professionally and privately, from bed rooms to board rooms!
Basics of Body Language
Here under are some examples; but the caveats or conditions, under which these may not apply are:
- Physiological or pathological problems, which could influence our normal body functions or anatomy or appearance.
- Physical or mental injuries leading to similar effects as above.
- Cosmetic or surgical changes on the body, done by design.
We also need to understand that our body language or expression is not a result of one single parameter, thought or state of our mind; but it is a combination of many at the same time. Therefore, what we routinely observe is the mixed effect and hence, we can easily get confused. However, by practice, we could get clearer understanding.
Hot head would have falling hair line and thinning hair density.
Good density and growth of hair mean a cool head.
If a person has multiple thoughts at a time, especially conflicting ones and most of the time, hair would tend to be curly. It is because of this reason that normally, very naughty kids have curly hair!
Empathy and exquisiteness of a person reflect in eyes!
Appearance of eyes, when we have feeling of compassion and kindness, would reflect acceptance of situation and has a kind of pull or attraction in the direction of outward to inward of eyes! Contours of eyes would tend to elongate horizontally!
When the feelings are cruel or sinister, eyes tend to pop out, give repulsive feelings and contours of eyes stretches all over.
If eyes blink too frequently, it is a sign of lack of concentration, guilt or fear.
A normal look, with very little blinking is a sign of confidence.
But, if someone is looking continuously at you without much movement of pupil of eyes, his/her intentions or thoughts are different than what you tend to believe. Be careful under such situation.
Our universe has evolved on account of slight asymmetry! Therefore, a slight asymmetry increases beauty of bodies! It is because of this, that a slight asymmetry in eyesight (very little squint) enhances the beauty of eyes manifold!!
Shape and thickness of eyebrows (natural; not threaded or made-up ones!) represents degree of our temperament!
Thick and bushy eyebrows indicate loose and hot temperament.
Sleek and shaped (natural) eyebrows reflect congenial nature and attitude. Note: Even if you don’t have great shape, it tends to appear better in shape, when you really have very adaptive thoughts and feelings!
Our Ego sits and shows on our nose!
Bigger the nose, bigger is our Ego.
Bigger and sharper the nose, Ego graduates to Ferocity or Ferociousness.
But, good news for those having big nose – if they really drop their ego, then in overall changed look of their face, prominence of nose would stand diluted!
When our intentions or ideas are ferocious, arrogant, with over-emphasis or rebellion, our nostrils would flare up!
Main source of our smile is our lips.
Real smile does not open the lips (unless we are speaking and smiling at the same time). In other words, any smile with lips open is not real. Look at Mona Lisa’s picture or painting!
Further, degree of our happiness and sensuality shows through shape and size of lips. When we are truly happy, lip line would stretch. On the other hands, when we are sensual, it would contract!
Did you notice – a dimple in one cheek enhances the effect and beauty of lips, so also smile!
Neck or neck line denotes degree of your delicacy.
Thin and long neck (not too much; just more than average in length) is the sign of delicacy and sophistication.
Too broad a neck could be a sign of brutality.
Too short a neck could signal complicated or parochial personality.
Please remember the up side in all of above examples that when we become different and better, then overall body language makes overall look of body different and better and the effect of any shortfall in individual body parts gets diluted!
- Face or jaw line
Face forms the overall impression!
But there are few unique effects –
Too symmetrical a face is a sign of monotony or monotonous (boring) nature.
Too broad a face signals brash, brutal, toxic or autocratic nature.
Too long a face points to pessimistic and paranoid nature.
Too short a face shows limited perspective and narrow vision.
A normally broad and little longer face looks most attractive. That’s how you would look, if you drop negative qualities, even if actual dimensions of your jaw line may not change!
Size of our shoulders shows degree of our sobriety and confidence.
Too broad and straight shoulders signal bold or brutal attitude.
Too short or drooping shoulders represent waning confidence.
- Overall Body
Our overall body reflects our overall persona!
If we are stressed or struggling to be at peace, our body would become stiff and sore.
A happy and calm mind makes our body supple and flexible.
A little fat on our body acts as cushion between skin and inner nerves and it saves us from superficial pains. That also makes our nature jovial.
In other words, truly jovial nature would tend to build fat on your body.
There are lot more examples!
Other source/s to learn body language
A big source of learning body language is also work of good painters, photographers, cartoonists, animation experts, film or playwright actors and directors!
Correct knowledge of body language is a big key in success mantras
Everyone makes use of body language; but the use is unstructured, unorganized, unrefined and undefined.
You have choice to do it cosmetically, create temporary and artificial effects and fade out. This is what most do as of now.
Alternative and right choice is to work for characteristic changes in self and bring our charismatic changes in your persona. You can’t imagine how that would change the whole paradigm! Often, we see some and found them impressive. When we look at individual parts of their body, we do not find anything uniquely great; but on the whole we find them distinct and decent! And that is the effect of Charisma, which reflects as body language because of good character beneath!!
Correct and good understanding of body language can completely refine and rejuvenate us. We can understand, judge and manage people and situations at best whether we are dealing with a senior, sub-ordinate or spouse, boss or bête noire, interviewing a person or being interviewed, addressing an audience or being a part of audience.
The most important of all –
- We learn to impact and inspire others!
- Leveraging body language knowledge is a key element of Success Mantra!!