Why we have Natural Tendency to lean more on Negatives than Positives!

A charming and young lady was strolling in the garden and suddenly found a man chasing her. She got scared and thought that this person does not have good intentions. Before she could raise alarm, the man reached out to her and said you dropped your wallet few minutes back and requested her to check that all contents in the wallet were intact. The lady felt very ashamed of the thoughts, she earlier got in her mind!

That is how most of have a natural tendency – pick or fall prey to negatives more frequently than positives. If we often don’t get what we want, this tendency has a lot to do with it! We are generally aware that anything, which is negative, is not worth; yet we don’t disown or discard same, instead we keep clinging to those – negative thoughts, actions, habits and characteristics. This is rampant across all races and regions around the world!

Mandate of Nature is clear cut – if you want successes to chase you, you have no choice but to be positive in all aspects you deal!!

Look at our natural tendency

If we consciously observe, we would find that in course of everyday life, ratio of our negatives to positive thoughts is disproportionately high! Here below are some very common examples, which we keep repeating without noticing and questioning us, what we gain by doing that or how much we are losing!

  1. You have to address an audience. Thoughts like I may not perform well, I am likely to forget important points in my address, audience may not get impressed etc. would keep nagging you until you are on the stage.
  2. If you are facing series of problems, you start to believe life is no good nor is your luck!
  3. Unexpected call from a difficult boss brings immediate hackle – he is going to bang me.
  4. Boss getting a call from employees, after giving salary raises would set her/him thinking these guys are never satisfied with whatever I do and they would chew my brain to do more.
  5. Spouse suddenly showering love and praises would ring alarms in your ears – now what kind of new demand or favor in offing?
  6. Husband dropping a utensil in kitchen evokes reaction from wife at a distance – you must have broken that! Can’t you learn to be careful?
  7. Not winning business makes you rue – the customers and competitors are so difficult to deal.
  8. An astrologer forecasts that your good time for business would start from year xxx and you would have health issues from following year. You would start to worry about following year; but not feel good for the preceding one!
  9. Some naysayers predict our planet would be doomed when hit by a comet or meteor in month xx of running year and we would start looking at sky in night next day onwards and wonder what is going to happen, even if space scientists have pooh-poohed such prediction!

People whose life evolves n revolves around negativism!

Population of people with negative fervor and flair is far in excess of who are passionate about positivism!

  • Skeptics
  • Pessimists
  • Paranoid people
  • Emotional and sensitive people
  • People in hurry and haste
  • People with short temper
  • Believers of Instincts, Hunches or Gut Feelings

And many more!

The reason, why they are and would always be in majority, is that it is easy and expedient to be negative than positive, as explained below. Most of these people even know that it does not help; but the paradox is they can’t help it!

Secret behind our attraction towards Negativism

If we analyze above 9 examples or many more, we would discover that these are just a result of our thoughtless reactions! Analogous to Newton’s 3rd law of motion, for every action or situation, our mind has reaction. Note, such reactions are mostly negative!

Why our reactions are mostly negative?

Scientific research and rationale show that reactions of human mind are shaped by the emotions from past memories. Emotions reside in our mind like how cache memory does in a computer and would instantly show up, when we witness a new situation or suggestion.

Negative emotions are a plenty by definition – fear, frustration, frown, worry, whining, despondency, depression, dejection, obsession, greed, lust, prejudice etc. On the other hand, positive emotions are only a few – feeling happy, ecstasy or fantasy.

Negative emotions or thoughts are just reactions, bereft of conscious or considered views. Therefore, these are easy, handy and spontaneous. Positive emotions or thoughts or actions are just the opposite. Human tendency is to always seek comfort zones, cozy ways and this is the very cause why we fall prey to everything, which is negative!

Our leaning and liking for negatives are further accentuated by Law of attraction of identical properties, whereby negative thoughts or actions would attract more of negative ones and repel positive ones. This is how; we are trapped in vicious circle on Negativism!!

“Being Positive” as your passion!

  1. Ask yourself what your wants are?
    Are these not success, happiness and fitness on sustained basis? If yes, your only choice is to be positive and trash being negative.
    Even when you want to get power, popularity and/or prosperity, you can’t get any of these without being positive.
  2. Insinuation that negativity works is a sheer Illusion.
  3. Don’t do what most would do, as it is mostly a mistake!
  4. Route to right and good mostly would not be and need not be easy and cozy.
  5. Try to take “no action on your 1st reaction”; just hold on. Do not believe that holding on would make heaven to fall!
    This may need considerable practice and patience; but it would come.
  6. Value of past emotions is no more than that of a newspaper, which you have read and done with – scrap!
  7. Believe that being positive is not a big science. It is just thoughtfulness and consciousness that your world would be exactly the way you want to see and make. Related to this is the greatest equation of nature – “You get = What you give”, which you can’t negate or circumvent. You deliver justice, you would get one; you deliver malice, you won’t get anything less than that!

So, be a winner in every work and walk of your life by being Positive!!!


8 responses to “Why we have Natural Tendency to lean more on Negatives than Positives!”

  1. Arundhati Deshmukh Avatar
    Arundhati Deshmukh


    This is really helpful post. A simple looking statement “no action on your 1st reaction” is key to stress-free life, although implementation would need a lot of practice. thanks for putting it in words, which makes it simple and worth trying.

    1. Murli Avatar

      You have done excellent summing-up! I really feel very thankful to you for your valuable views and feedback!!

      I am sure you would be able to implement recommendations brought out in this post and that would give you quantum jump in your growth and glory.

  2. Murli Lohia Avatar
    Murli Lohia

    From: Jayateerth.Kulkarni@emerson.com [mailto:Jayateerth.Kulkarni@emerson.com]
    Sent: Friday, March 29, 2013 12:02 PM

    To: murlilohia@gmail.com

    Subject: RE: Why we have Natural Tendency to lean more on Negatives than Positives!

    Very well said.

    1. Murli Avatar

      Thank you very much!

  3. Rudra Avatar

    Very true all the “Natural Tendencies” you have mentioned.

    It is indeed very important to be positive and optimistic in life – it surely helps!! It has helped me quite a lot. 🙂 People usually giggle at me seeing my ‘too much’ of sanguine attitude :O, but I do believe (good) things can happen in a blink if you remain positive in everything that you do!!

    A nice read!!

    Thanks! 🙂

    1. Murli Avatar

      I highly commend your positive feedback and sharing your own experience.

      People, who giggle at you for your positive attitude, are actually damaging their own! Being nasty is part of being negative!!

  4. Murli Lohia Avatar
    Murli Lohia

    Transferred from LinkedIn

    Laura Brehuescu has sent you a message.
    Date: 4/04/2013

    Subject: RE:Why we have Natural Tendency to lean more on Negatives than Positives!

    Useful info, thank you Murli,

    1. Murli Avatar

      Thanks a lot for your positive feedback!

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