Predicting Behavior of Bosses!

Is it not a good topic to talk about? If you could predict behavior of your boss, half of your life is made at work! You would not face dilemma time and again how to deal with your boss/es.

In every profession and part of our life, we have to deal with people. We have no clue how much trouble we invite and time we waste by not responding or dealing with them correctly. Most of us would respond or react spontaneously or in ad hoc way, without making any effort to predict their likely behavior. As a result, we may face rough or tough situation and have nothing but regrets at the end! So, it makes good sense to observe and understand behavioral pattern of people, as a habit and manage them to get what you deserve or desire. Predicting bosses is part of such larger scheme; but believe me it is not difficult thing to do, once you start doing it and make your natural choice to practice. It is then that dealing with bosses or anyone else would not be a burden on you; but a beauty!

Reading Boss’ mind

  1. Judge your boss the way he keeps his office/table (I would be using he, with no gender bias)
    1. If his office/table is always well-organized same way without cluttering, he is much disciplined, definite in his ideas and likes everyone to be organized.
    2. If he keeps his pencils well sharpened, note pad and pen exactly at same place and orientation every day, he is a man of firm ideas and would be inflexible most of time.
    3. If he keeps multiple pen and pencils on table as a habit, he likes to play safe, be conservative or even paranoid.
    4. If he keeps his office sparsely furnished and table with minimum required items, he has a simple and clear mind and believes in quick actions.
    5. If his office/table is cluttered and displays posters with powerful management slogans, he is either confused or toxic!
    6. If he does not keep his office well illuminated (even in name of energy conservation), he may not be a man of bright ideas; nor would he like those from you!
  2. Figure out from how he greets you
    1. If he raises his head, looks into your eyes, give smile and say how are you, he is welcoming and well aligned to you.
    2. If he does the above and asks how he can help you, your day is made!
    3. If he does not shift eyes from computer screen or what he is doing and says hello or how you are doing, he would be passive to what you have to say; but he wants you to actively listen to him!
    4. If his response is only “come in and sit”, you are headed for a dull or cold conversation.
    5. If he speaks neither anything nor he offers you to sit, he wants you to get lost!
  3. Comprehend from how he conducts a conversation or meeting
    1. If he is normally ahead or on time to attend a meeting, he would take the things seriously.
    2. If he opens his conversation by thanking everyone for their presence or time, he would respect your views.
    3. If he takes initiative to give chance to everyone to speak and coaxes ones, who are keeping silent, to speak, he is man of empathy.
    4. If he narrates his own examples and past accomplishments during meetings, he likes to take credit; so he won’t give you one, even if you deserve.
    5. If he interrupts often, while others are speaking and admonishes attendee/s, he is an autocratic boss and would not take no for an answer.
    6. If he is looking at you without a blink or expression, he does not like what you are sharing or saying.
    7. If he hears your problems and pains; but does not sympathize, it is going over his head and he is not interested in solutions.
  4. Understand from how he interacts with employees
    1. If he is mostly confined to his office or seat and move out only when there is a purpose, he is not predictable and people friendly.
    2. If he goes to employee’s work place without an agenda and ask how she/he is doing, inquire if she/he has any concern/issue, offers in what way he can help or inspires them to achieve their goals, he is not a boss but a Leader!
    3. If he consistently recognizes and appreciates minor to major accomplishments of employees, for major ones he goes to employees to thank them personally and expresses his gratefulness, he is a Go-to-Boss and you can thank your stars!
    4. If he becomes upset when you fail to deliver and does not want to understand your situation, we would be arbitrary in his decisions and atrocious!
    5. Even when you have a genuine problem, he goes by rule book and does not find a reasonable solution; he is bureaucratic, lacks courage and initiative!
  5. Know the Body Language of your Boss
    The post published on 21-March on this site talks about importance of knowing body language. It has gone down only to shoulder level. So, let us understand more parts:
    1. If he takes long steps and throws his hand wide open while walking, he is over confident.
    2. If he does not mix and match his dress properly, he does not have a great taste for creating congenial environments at work place and in company. He would be content, what happens at its own. So he may not be a man of drive.
    3. If he likes to keep his wrist watch running faster, he is a boss in hurry and may not devote enough time to you.
    4. If boss puts his hands on your shoulder or on arm, those are helping hands! You can expect him to be cooperative and considerate!
      But, if he only taps on your shoulder or arm and moves on, he has habit to make his presence felt. He is likely to have ego or at least, would like that he be listened to!
    5. While addressing an audience, if he raises his hands above shoulders, he is overemphasizing or overenthusiastic. Lacks depth!
      If his hands remain low or do not move, he is under confident or an underdog!
      However, if his hands rise automatically at the level of his shoulders approximately, he is truly confident!
    6. If his voice is normally loud and without rhythm, he is most likely autocratic and toxic.
      If his voice is generally lower in volume, at times unclear; but without rhythm, he is dogmatic.
      Nevertheless, if his voice is at right pitch with rhythm, he is surely democratic (and decent)!

Can you influence behavior of your Boss?

Yes, you can! State of your mind can shape state of behavior that you would see in your boss!!

Remember, you need to be positive, to get positive results. If you are negative, you would get nothing!!!


16 responses to “Predicting Behavior of Bosses!”

  1. Priya Avatar

    very nice sir agreed 🙂 and what if i m doing something on my pc i look back and find boss staring at me without any expression and leaves without giving any comments then what?

    1. Murli Avatar

      I highly appreciate your positive feedback and a question!

      For answer – could you please look at part “Eyes” of the post dated 21-march on Body Language? He or she appears to be person with biases and lacking empathy!!

      1. Priya Avatar

        Thank you so much sir for your great response i loved reading it and thanks for making us understand such small things because in such a corporate world we need extra intelligence and also it get years to know this things 🙂

        1. Murli Avatar

          I can’t thank you enough for your inspiring response and interest! You have congenial attitude. Please keep it up!!

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    Murli Lohia

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    Cristina Sângeorzan has sent you a message.

    Date: 4/04/2013
    Subject: RE: Predicting Behavior of Bosses!

    Thank’s for this message. I find it very interesting!

    Have a nice day,


    1. Murli Avatar

      I can’t thank you enough for your spontaneous response and positive feedback!

      Have a great day.

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    Deepak Vyawahare has sent you a message.
    Date: 4/05/2013
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    Dear Murli,

    good morning ! It has been a pleasure to see your regular informative articles. I have been reading very regularly. They are really good, added with your vast practical experience. Keep sharing knowledge.

    1. Murli Avatar

      Many thanks for your positive feedback and views. I am grateful for your interest and good words!

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    Sudhir Agashe has sent you a message.
    Date: 4/05/2013
    Subject: RE: Predicting Behavior of Bosses!

    Very interesting and thought provoking article. Is it possible to change body language based on the article to be a good boss?


    Sudhir Agashe

    1. Murli Avatar

      I am very thankful to you for your positive views! Yes, it is very much possible to change the body language and become a good boss. We need “character change”, to bring the required changes in our body language. In any case, such a change is imperative to become a good boss. Please also see my earlier article on body language by logging on –

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    Murli Lohia

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    Subject: RE: Predicting Behavior of Bosses!

    Very well said sir.

    1. Murli Avatar

      Thanks a lot for your feedback!

  6. Bhupati Avatar

    It’s worth to read each line mentioned here. These are the perls hand picked from ocen of your vast experience.

    1. Murli Avatar

      I feel grateful to what you have stated! It shows your Grace!!

  7. Rudra Avatar

    It is… very much!! 🙂

    Unfortunately, I haven’t had the chance to work directly with a “proper” BOSS in my any aspect of life, so far. Most of the times I’ve worked alone (had Bosses in dotted lines) and many times “Bossed” others :). So it would be really nice to look for these things in him if and when I get a ‘direct’ boss on me!!

    Having said that, I think you would only be interested in reading your boss’s mind IF you really want to do that and you’ve that sort of interest in him. Don’t think it would work properly in case of dogmatic or arrogant bosses… or will it?? Well if at all, chances are very less!!

    Your 3rd and 5th points are hilarious – can relate to it so much!! 😛

    Nice study “BOSS”!!

    1. Murli Avatar

      I am thankful for your comments and views!

      Most of what is described in the post are natural human tendencies. So, these would apply to anyone; but some of these get accentuated by position, one holds in an organization in this case – a boss. If you have to deal with someone, you do choose your response. You can do it randomly and wait to see its effect; may be good outcome or may not be as good. But if you respond on the basis of your understanding how he/she tend to behave, you would only make your response more congenial or effective.

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