Jury from extensive research is out – the truth is what above caption speaks. There is a clear case to search your soul. A very high percentage of people – more than 90%, believe or make others to believe that they are sincere and good; but they display these qualities in public or private, corporates and communities out of some fear or to serve their own agenda. In that case, how can they be termed as being really good and sincere?
If you indeed have these or related positive qualities, those would get exhibited in your expressions, emotions and every action and thoughts of yours. You do not need to make any effort; these would simply show up not selectively; but inherently and automatically!
There are essentially 3 categories of people:
- No goodness and sincerity
People in this group are pain and problems for society. We will not delve much, as this category is well known; but in minority.
- Self-depicted goodness and sincerity
More than 90% people around the world come in this category. No doubt, it is far better than 1st category; but not good enough!
- Inherent goodness and sincerity
This is one most desired; but what is in most demand is always in dearth!
Why majority live with Self-depicted goodness and sincerity
We will focus on reasons why most people want to be seen as sincere, sympathetic, honest, good, ethical and reasonable:
- Self-image supersedes all
Everyone wants to preserve/ build and enhance self-image. Compromising that is ruled out. This drives most to do what can be seen as good, regardless whether they imbibe that or not. Considerable part of behavioral pattern of people, drum or chest beating gets governed by self-image factor!
You can, now, imagine what such people do, when they are in a situation; where self-image is not at stake!
- Preserving and raising Self-esteem
Moral and motivational levels get a boost, when you show sincerity, sobriety, reasonableness and rationality. Depending upon a situation, many spontaneously show these qualities, even when same are not embedded in their nature. Naturally, observers or on-lookers would get impressed and such people receive respect and recognition. This serves a big purpose to their esteem as well as ego!
- Fear of Failure
No one sensible would like to fail or be seen as making mistakes. There is general awareness what would not precipitate a failure, if not success – like being honest, humble, sincere, being good, considerate and so on. People pull these qualities in their doings to serve their agenda to avoid failure; however, same vanish, when they win. This is precisely the reason why success gets into the head of many!
- Doing as ritual
Nearly all learn from their Papa, Mama, teachers and preachers what qualities are good for them. For some, these qualities get inculcated in their character and for others; these remain just awareness without conviction. Latter category of people demonstrates these only as a ritual with no or little ownership or no belief behind. This puts them easily in reverse gear and drop most what they know is good, if they get into crisis or conflict.
- Doing, as others do
Most have herd mentality – follow others blindly, with no reasoning or rationale. They do not even realize why they do so, as they make no effort to understand. When “to follow your idol, mentor or guru blindly” is a farce, not to talk of such herd walks!
- Playing Safe
Man inherently has tendency to play safe, prefers conservatism and not pragmatism. This drives him to do all what would avoid troubles or hassles; but when troubles actually land up, then he tumbles down and unable to manage. This is because he is on flimsy and shaky grounds and has no understanding of what is indeed good and respond.
- Compliance to Laws or Rules
Most practice and display discipline, honesty, ethics and prudence for fear of laws or rules and not by choice. Survival in many organizations is possible, only when you are compliant. What happens when these qualities are not built into the character of an individual and fear of the laws/rules has flown away on some occasions? Rather than staying compliant, he/she would circumvent. There are innumerable cases in corporate or public life around the world, when people least expected to break ethics or prudential norms, have been caught doing so.
It is a big bane, if goodness and sincerity remains on your body and not get into your blood!
- Fear of God or Divine forces
Many take great pleasure in declaring that they are god-fearing! For the fear of god, they become pious and positive. They create an impression that they are holy cows. I have not come across anyone asking them why fear of god? If you are indeed good and hence believe in good karmas, then why fear of god? They fear, because they are actually not sincere, sane or sacred; these attributes surface time to time only by selection. These do not form part and parcel of their character and convictions!
Pitfalls of Self-depicted Goodness and Sincerity
- You would seldom enjoy full fruits from your work or activities.
- Sometimes, despite your best efforts and intentions, you do not get desired results. Why? Your good qualities do not exist as a whole!
- You would have fluctuating fortune or face cycles of good time and bad time; success and failure; ups and downs.
- You would not be able to drive as much a change or create impact in your company or community, as some people are able to do – the reason being that they from category 3, as opposed to 2 of yours.
So, if you want to be different and distinguished, deliver consistent performance and drive a moral Change around you, be honest to assess in which category are you. It is not difficult to come to a right conclusion – check “if you are in crisis; but hold ground and count on the qualities you possess”, “when temptation is to compromise your honesty because you see no harm; but remain steadfast on your ethical values”, “when you can afford to ignore, you still inspire people” and “when you have no pressure, you still press for a Change”, you would qualify for category 3.
Your World would be wow, your Body language would Bloom and your Character would be Charismatic, if you make your positive qualities inherent part of life, reflect those as a Whole every time effortlessly and not in part or pieces!