Universal rule for Dos & Don’ts!

“Do, what makes you Happy!

Don’t do what Harms, Hurts or Hates others!!”

Very often, most come on crossroads and get confused what to do or not do. But, it is amazing that above 2 sentences can indeed guide you and help determine correct way forward! These sentences are not alien to most; but what has been hitherto beyond comprehension of many is that these actually constitute a universal rule for “Dos & Don’ts” in nearly all situations all over world – be it good or bad time, successes or failures, comfort or crisis.

True meaning of Happiness

Happiness is one of the most widely used words; but irony is that it is also the most misunderstood term! Most confuse happiness with pleasure, excitement, enjoyment, attachment or attraction. Happiness is just a state of mind, in which there is no conflict of thoughts. Mind is focused just on the present situation or “Now”!

Selflessness and fearlessness descend automatically, when one is really in a state of happiness!!

How the rule keeps you on track

  1. You can’t be happy at work without being motivated and charged; and you can’t get success without these 2 attributes!
  2. Leadership trait demands that one be hopeful and helpful. Happiness can’t survive without these 2 qualities.
  3. Without being happy, you can’t be productive yet creative. And you cannot gain visibility in a company or society without being productive as well as creative.
  4. You ought to be passionate and compassionate in order to be happy. In order to be people friendly, you need these likewise.
  5. Since there is no conflict of thoughts and fear during the state of happiness, these make you decisive and daring! That is what you need, to be good in management.
  6. Plural thoughts and preconceived notions cannot bring happiness; in other words, you have to be focused and flexible to be happy, which are also exactly needed to beat your rivals or competitors.
  7. If you want to be a great communicator, you cannot do without confidence and prudence, which also create great sense of your satisfaction i.e. happiness.

It very much implies that don’t do what makes you unhappy – anxiety, anger, worries or fear!

How the rule does not allow you going off track

  1. If your attitude is unreasonable and unruly, you are bound to hurt whom you are dealing with. So, you cannot afford to do it!
  2. Being rash and rude is bound to irritate others, regardless of high position you are holding. So, it is undesirable in every case.
  3. In the name of duty, if you are abusive or atrocious, you would only attract repulsion or hatred from others. You cannot justify these under any circumstance.
  4. Being unfair and unfriendly can encourage you to play games and politics against others and harm them. You would always lose by doing that.
  5. Your impulsive and provocative communication would invariably trigger hurt for others and would never go down well.
  6. If you are inconsiderate or irritating to others, you cannot be a likeable person.
  7. If you shout or show off, it can only create a crack in other’s understanding of you and hence can afford the least.

So, this is a golden rule, whose glitter can glorify your character and make you very graceful!


13 responses to “Universal rule for Dos & Don’ts!”

  1. Rudra Avatar

    Well, what if doing something makes us happy but hurts others!! 😀

    You have mentioned some rules that keep us on or off the track, especially at ‘Work’…

    Talking about us, the Indians, I somehow feel that too much of freedom generally tends to ruin us (I would want to exclude myself from that lot though 🙂 ). I said freedom because happiness comes when your are free… free to do whatever you want, in whichever way you want!! In other words, if management provides complete freedom to its employees, no restrictions on anything… employees will easily be happy and consequently, be motivated, charged, hopeful, helpful, productive, creative, passionate, compassionate, decisive, daring, focused, flexible, confident and prudent!! – These all are nothing but corollaries of freedom/happiness, aren’t they?? I strongly believe Freedom and Happiness go hand-in-hand and sturdily related to each other!!

    But then, as I stated in the beginning, too much of freedom will spoil us (this is in our veins), we start to take extra leverage out of those facilities and probably that’s why we live under so many restrictions at ‘Work’. Saying from my personal experience… this is not the case with work environments in some of the other countries, and see, who are the happy bunch!! 🙂 (I am happy as-it-is and anyway though 😀 )

    So I think we need to change our mindset, grow-up a bit so that our “Dos” and “Don’ts” match each others’, our actions don’t hurt others and we live in a authentic happy world… 🙂

    1. Murli Avatar

      Thanks for your views! But, there seem to be contradictions in what you have stated.

      “What makes you happy but that hurts others” can only give you pleasure that too temporary and not happiness.

      Referring to 3rd and 4th paras, freedom does not guarantee happiness. The post defines the true meaning of happiness. Thought of not having freedom amounts to conflicts of thoughts! If freedom and happiness were to go hand in hand, then how freedom can ruin us? It can’t be that it applies to Indians and not some other countries, simply because there is more freedom at work; nor happiness can ever come by drawing a comparison!

      1. Rudra Avatar

        Agree! But when I said “What makes you happy but that hurts others”… I meant, for e.g., I want to get-in some profession (say Music), but my friends / family want me to become a Doctor. Here, becoming a Music Composer is making me happy but hurting my well-wishers. At the same time, if I know I am dedicated towards my goal and want to really make it big, it won’t be a temporary happiness for me… but an everlasting bliss!

        So as we always have been saying, it’s your ‘State of Mind’ that matters and how loyal your are towards your happiness. If something’s making us happy but hurting others, its up-to us how we can turn that miserable thing in such a way that it makes everybody happy including ourselves.

        I understood you have defined happiness in a broader and diverse way, and agree that freedom doesn’t guarantee happiness, but at the same time, an incarcerated person can never be happy, can he? 🙂

        But anyway, will definitely take a leaf out of this post and try to revive happiness!! 🙂

        1. Murli Avatar

          Thanks a lot for your credible views!

          By opting to be a music composer, instead of a doctor, you are actually not hurting others. Others are becoming unhappy. Posting is talking of your happiness; not of others because you can’t make everyone happy.. Emphasis is on not hurting/harming/hatred!

          Your understanding as above is admirable.

      2. Subhash Deshpande Avatar
        Subhash Deshpande

        Murli to ”DOs AND Don’ts
        on June 23, 2013 at 10:50 pm said

        I read your article on Do’s & Don’ts and also the discussions.I found it really helpful.
        What I feel is ,life is constantly changing in many aspects professionally & also socially. One’s pleasure can be another’s headache. As a Golden rule ‘You can not make everyone happy every time’! You have to make adjustments or alter yourself ( Also sometimes sacrifice) depending on the complexity and end result of a situation. You have to constantly track your life like a satellite tracking system.Sometimes you need Stepper motor ( e.g.Turn arm 14 Deg.(Non adjustable though it moves to 17 Deg.due to load(No Auto reversing type) to take hard but right decision & many times like Servo motors adjustable one ( If asked to turn 5 Deg. & moves 7 Deg.due to load it reverses 2 Deg. for the needful adjustment ).
        So these dos and don’ts rules can be effectively used at the right times !

        Thanx & regards

        Subhash Deshpande.

        1. Murli Avatar

          Thanks a lot! I indeed appreciate your views and examples!!

          To supplement what you have stated, I can only restate what is mentioned in the post – If the first 2 lines of the post are understood and implemented correctly, these would work in every type of time and on every kind of people. It is not important to make everyone happy; you really can’t do that. If anyone attempts, he/she can only mess up. What is important is not to hurt anyone! If your intention is never to hurt any; but some still feel hurt, move on!!

          1. Subhash Deshpande Avatar
            Subhash Deshpande

            Dear Murlisir
            Truly thanx for your valuable feed back !

            Subhash Deshpande

  2. Murli Lohia Avatar
    Murli Lohia

    From: Shirish.Ratnaparkhi@emerson.com [mailto:Shirish.Ratnaparkhi@emerson.com]
    Sent: Thursday, June 20, 2013 5:12 PM

    To: murlilohia@gmail.com
    Subject: RE: Universal rule for Dos & Don’ts!

    True meaning of Happiness
    Happiness is one of the most widely used words; but irony is that it is also the most misunderstood term! Most confuse happiness with pleasure, excitement, enjoyment, attachment or attraction. Happiness is just a state of mind, in which there is no conflict of thoughts. Mind is focused just on the present situation or “Now”!
    Selflessness and fearlessness descend automatically, when one is really in a state of happiness!!
    Thank you so much Sir for THE words. I am happy that I am very close in understanding and following the right direction. It gives me immense pleasure to acknowledge few things to you by such communication which only helps me going ahead….
    Thanks to you and Network21. Both of you live the same language!

    1. Murli Avatar

      Many thanks for your valuable feedback! I am glad that you are keenly following the meaning of happiness.

  3. Murli Lohia Avatar
    Murli Lohia

    Transferred from LinkedIn

    From Stephanie Moonen

    Trainer at Jules Dock Consultancy

    Thanks! Great artice!

    Kind regards,

    Stephanie Moonen

    1. Murli Avatar

      Your 2 words make it a great feedback!

  4. Manasi Avatar

    I agree, with your blogs. It has always helped me to find new ways and new inspiration to deal with things.

    1. Murli Avatar

      I indeed appreciate your endorsement! It is impressive to learn that you are able to derive good benefits from these articles.

      I wish you to be the Best!

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