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A significant single point resolution for New Year!

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The best single point resolution for 2015 for you could be “not to trash older resolutions and tag along with yet new set of resolutions; instead review and reinforce the older ones!” There is lot of merits in doing so:

  1. If you have been making resolutions with dawn of New Years in the past and fulfilling those, then you would have become so good that you don’t require a new resolution! Yet, if you chose to make one, most likely it would be flimsy and frivolous!! That would do more harm than good to you.
  2. But, if you have not been fulfilling what you commit to yourself in terms of resolutions, it signals your weak intents or convictions. This is indeed a big issue for you, which would only magnify if you gloss over and go for new resolutions.
    If you believe that you have changed and would not allow new resolutions to gather dust now, then first test yourself by dusting off older lots and fulfilling same. Otherwise, you are only misleading yourself.
  3. Are you aware what we believe as new or start of a new period like year 2015, it triggers an impulse or euphoria in us? It is just a spark but not fire. Mass hysteria on such occasions creates an illusion in our mind that it is a fire and we are tempted to consign older intents and values in same and opt for a perceived new order!
    Generally, such new order is nothing but older ideas in a new wrapper.
  4. Excitement linked to an event does create a drive in you; but please do not overlook the fact that after all it is not your inner drive and hence, it would fade once event is over.
    So, if you want to reap real fruits of your ideas and intents, those must be triggered by your inner drive or what we call as inspiration.
  5. When you are inner or self-driven, good ideas would start flooding your mind and time, space or occasions would lose significance! Real test of you being in self-drive mode is that you would start to feel compelled to resolve and implement those ideas there and then! You would not postpone those for an event like New Year to usher in!
    So, if you defer good ideas to an occasion, then you are not self-driven nor ideas are actually good!
  6. Please do not forget that what is good cannot be in great number! Usually, most of us know what is good. What we lack is our belief in those and will to implement. Therefore, what is critical is to review and reinforce what you have already resolved or are in know of! It is only then you would excel in your efforts and get rewarded.

So, it makes a perfect sense to revisit and reinforce what you already possess or had resolved earlier.

How to revolutionize your euphoria linked to New Year or any other event!

  • New Year and for that reason, any other festive event brings excitement, energy and expectations. Channelize those not for setting new resolutions and ambitions, but for creating confidence and conviction in self!
  • Focus on what you are doing and not on doings of others.
  • Keenly discover for yourself that “you can enjoy an event only when you are positive in your mind, not when you are angry or anxious, distressed or dejected”.
  • Merge yourself with the moment and watch the game of mind. Your mind would unleash unprecedented drive and dazzle, bliss and beauty!
  • This is the time you should shed away all inhibitions and indecisiveness, put unflinching faith in your unlimited power and possibilities.

And move on with your pursuits single-minded!

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Everyone wants to be Short and Sweet; but how to be!

Universally, everybody agrees being short and sweet works well; but he/she often lands up being long and lingering! There are 2 schools of thoughts – one believes in being comprehensive and second puts its faith on being concise. Former invariably tends to become complex and then, people generally repel or react. Latter, when overtly conscious for being concise, tends to be too short to create meaningful understanding. So, both schools either tend to push away or fail to pull its audience.

Being short and sweet has lot to do with your state of mind, as also your notions, perceptions or traits! Here are some thoughts, which you can look at:

How not to be long

When you don’t present or communicate too long, it’s not that you would do it too short! You would fall in between – that’s what is actually needed.

  1. Be focused.
  2. Be simple by your thoughts and actions.
  3. Give introduction of topic you want to discuss or present in very concise form.
  4. Do not waste time to narrate problems. If you have to, do it in 2 or 3 sentences.
    Come directly to point and lay emphasis on solutions.
  5. Be conscious; but not concerned for being short!
  6. Cut down on your zest to give opinions.
  7. Give examples or quotes, only if these are directly relevant and would promote better understanding.
  8. Avoid communicating when you are over-confident or under-confident, else you would end up talking lot of rubbish or little of rationale respectively.
    When subdued, you speak too short! If you are too curt, people feel uncomfortable or offended!!
  9. It is sensible to be shut, if your mind is overwhelmed by reaction or conflicting thoughts.
  10. Do not fall prey to excuses or explanations.
    People would normally treat these as a cover-up!
  11. Remember, your audience is not at your mercy; it is other way round!
    If you are addressing a gathering, capacity of people to listen to you is no more than 35 to 45 minutes, after which all what you deliver would go overhead.
    If you are talking one to one, generally you should take a pause after 2 to 3 sentences. Speak more, only if other person does not respond.
  12. Avoid speaking under influence of your position, power or popularity. You would tend to speak too loud and long, which is bunk.

How to be sweet

It is easy to be sour, not sweet! But, to be sweet is significant!! Please remember the greatest equation of nature is “You get = What you give”.

So please imbibe these:

  1. Be sincere.
  2. Whatever you do, do it by heart. Don’t do it otherwise; you would be better off!
  3. Your ego needs to ebb!
  4. Listen more; speak shorter! People love that!!
  5. Don’t have dual yardsticks – one for self and second for others. If you can’t help having it, write-off being sweet.
  6. Understand your responsibility to your audience. Making it understand your views is more important than your own understanding.
  7. Inspire people and don’t inflict intellectual assaults on them through hypocritical and hysterical statements!
  8. Your body language reflects what you are! So, if you are relaxed and energized, your audience would be electrified!!

So, if you want to be a great influencer, be Focused, Sincere and Simple!

 

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Truth of the Moment – what Masses follow is mostly a Mistake!

This could come as a surprise to you; but research reveals that caption statement is not a mistake! This is not a rule, which applies 100% of time; but does apply most of the time. Action of masses being on wrong side is a high tendency and perennial probability.

Look at the examples, which prove the Truth of the Moment.

What masses tend to do

  1. Triangular love n hate
    1. If you are not happy with your boss, you would start loving his bête noire.
    2. If you get hurt by someone (even when you are at fault), you lean towards one who gives you healing, even if he/she fakes or falsifies.
    3. If you see flaw, right or wrong does not matter, in the party in power, you would flirt with another sitting in opposition.
  2. Masses getting swayed by superstitions.
  3. Person with power, position, popularity and/or prosperity gains prominence among public and press, even if his persona is poor!
  4. Fiery and flamboyant communicators are always construed by companies and communities as leaders!
  5. Everyone loves those companies giving handsome salary hikes, shops giving hefty discounts, governments giving tax exemptions, even if it means these establishments going bankrupt and everyone paying a higher and heavier price later!
  6. Majority does not like to prevent or pre-empt, since it wants to experience pain before it could recognize problems!
  7. Facing a setback; find a scapegoat first.
  8. In grip of surprise and suspense? Hold the breath to become breathless!
    Why not exhale the breath to enjoy much more?
  9. Hopes and happiness are matters of external forces. So, hopes of most are on God and happiness on spouse or bosses!
  10. One, who could touch your pain point/s and suppressed sentiments, becomes your role model, even when he has no model solution or charismatic character.
  11. One (gentle) man from a crowd start throwing stone or bottles at public property, rest would follow suit, with no clue or qualm why they should do that!
  12. “Number of tweets admiring a Beauty” can only be outnumbered by “a wave of tweets unleashed by complains of a twitter friendly netizen (net citizen) on defects in a (beauty) product”.

There are many more examples on what masses do across the globe!

Why mind of masses tends to go wrong?

Mind is not always right, especially when it comes to collective effect of minds of masses. The paradox is it is the masses, at the same time, which has power to make or break countries, communities and companies.

  • In 90% of cases, first reaction of mind is never right, since it just a reaction, without rationale, to an action, which mind experiences. It is analogous to Newton’s 3rd Law of Motion! Masses tend to act of 1st i.e. spontaneous reaction of mind!!
  • Majority of individuals has insecure feeling, as it lacks inherent strength of character and intellect. This makes most individuals to look at neighborhood i.e. they are overwhelmed by Neighbor’s Syndrome.
  • When emotions get evoked, it is very easy for our mind to get engaged and polarization of opinion happens at fast pace.
    These emotions + polarization of opinion thereby lead to what is known as “Mass Mentality”. It also, now, makes it clear that what masses follow is not based upon any logic or rationale!

How to keep your mind on right course?

  • Watch out for mass hype, hysteria or heroism. Most of these would be hypocrisies and lure you, because of illusion; these are able to create in your mind. Wise thing would be to shun these.
  • Roads most traveled look tempting; but these would not be free from rough patches and erosion! Your fear that you would miss something by not following those roads is false.
    So, be bold to follow routes, less traveled. You would discover new experience and confidence.
  • The world that you see starts from you and would end with you. So, why should others drive and impact you and your world? You need to drive them. You must observe, listen or hear and learn from others; but develop your own conscience and consciousness.
  • There is one aspect, which you need to tread carefully –
    The faith you follow would always have elements of masses and mythology, dogmas and doctrines. But at the core, all faiths favor “Help everyone; but hurt no one!” Disregard its adulterated version, if you come across. If you keep this simple principle at the apex level of all of your responses, you would do very well.

With above, you can master the Mind and Masses; not the other way round!!

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Color of one’s Blood does not change to Blue, simply because he/she comes from Famous Family, Company or College!

Look at the people of Companies, Communities or Countries; one common thing that one would notice is lot of hype and awe for those, who come from well-known families, companies or campuses! Is that justified? Is there any rationale behind? Answer is big “No”, if we talk of 100% of cases; probably valid only in few deserving cases. This kind of hype is a result from mass hysteria, past legacies, fantasies and “follow the folks” blindly!

Perception that character and color of blood of those change, simply because they come from popular background, is not only lopsided but has lot of loopholes, though most people and press worldwide project that otherwise! This is synonym to “being star struck” and is an indication of our subdued complex and confidence!! Let us try to understand whether fame and name of background helps or hurts.

Well known background names – a Blessing or Bane?

If a person comes from a family, company or college, generally acknowledged for certain qualities and accomplishments, there is a higher probability that he/she gets exposure to such environments, which gives him (with no gender bias) opportunities to learn and imbibe those qualities faster. What it enables are easy opportunities; however, it is eventually the person himself, who has to work with those opportunities to develop and become better.

A rich or royal name can easily afford to send its child to study at Harvard or London school of economics. But, it is the child, who has to be diligent and perform. So, a famous background can provide opportunities and environments on a platter; but not performance and competence! One has to work to earn those!! Unfortunately, euphoria and hysteria make most to believe that such popular names automatically bring virtues and values as a perk in concerned person/s! This is nothing but bunk!!

Coming from well-known background could be both blessing and bane:

Blessing (+) –> Environments and opportunities on platter give easy access to growth and development.

Bane (-) –> One does not learn how to drive and create congenial environments and opportunities.

B+ –> Thrives on legacies of others and get popularity and publicity by default.

B- –> Past legacies are also a burden, the weight of which prevents one to create one’s own and establish his/her identity.

B+ –> Background name and fame give one increasing exposure and elite status.

B- –> It does not mean excellence; but definitely means vulnerability and drags one down much faster for a minor default.

B+ –> Ready facilities and conveniences make life trouble free to get most of things done faster.

B- –> It creates comfort zones, which make inertia and inefficiency to creep-in.

B- –> One is often aloof from real world and hence, he/she is often a failure, when faced with hard realities of life.

B- –> One of the biggest blights for persons coming from famous families, companies or colleges is that their “virtues and pluses” are too much highlighted in hypes and hence, “vices and minuses” get hidden beneath! Therefore, these people never realize the necessity to remove the latter. This has often led to their failures, when faced with contradictions and crisis.

No one has clue how much fall of financial institutions and economic woes in USA and globe in general has been contributed by work of lads and grads of so called elite MBA and Management Institutions since year 2008!

So, such persons are a kind of ready-made food in cans, which is easy to get cooked; but one does not know how much its nutrient and nourishing values have been lost!!

History shows stark truth that majority of leaders and legends were not bright students or had elite background e.g. Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Michael Dell, Einstein etc. Many, who turned out to be legends and famous thinkers in the later part of their life, came from elite background; but unshackled and detached themselves from their old legacies and background to reach unparalleled heights!!

How Hype has been Hurting!

  1. Preferential treatment to persons from prominent backgrounds by employers has created too many classes and creeds, strangulating harmonious development of societies and availability of larger pool of talents and leaders.
  2. Salary packages and opportunities for grads commensurate with names of their colleges; but non-commensurate with their qualities have created big discrepancies in several organizations, alienating large number of employees.
  3. Considerations as in point 2 have generally made grads’ head heavy and harness arrogance.
  4. Well known institutions do attract greater attention of Industries and State and therefore, these are able to attract funding and faculty. Like it or not, this can only happen at the cost of other institutions. This is one reason that quality of students graduating from other institutions has been taking a beating for years.
  5. Hype is blind and has emotions at the back but no rationale and logic. It prompts company management to put blind faith and delegation of power to these select persons. This has been a major cause of degrading standards of leadership and down slide of performance of many companies globally.

So, where do we need emphasis – being Elite (by background) or Evolved?

  • Scientific fact is that every class, character, background or base has its +ives and -ives. The key secret is how our mind has been conditioned by the system and/or our thinking; we have been living through and whether it enables us to see +ives first or –ives first.
    It is like looking at a glass having water – do you think effortlessly glass is half full (+ive) at first instance or half empty (-ive) first.
    This split second action of our mind over and over again makes a difference of heaven and hell, day and night, regardless of our class, creed, qualification, power or position.
  • We must not ignore the fact that families, companies or colleges acquire name and fame, because they had done certain things positive, as opposed to who had not! Hence, the system or environment of these has one great feature – if the current incumbents are conscious, they would tend to see +ives first! If they really do that, they would become superbly capable and successful.
    The paradox is that what comes handy and on platter, one tends to ignore its real value. So, most incumbents pick some +ives and most –ives. Rest of damage is inflicted on these incumbents due to hype and hypocrisies of public and press, management and managers!
  • Reverse is true for families, companies and colleges, which are not successful, since many things that they had done bear more –ives.
    There is yet another major secret of nature – when –ives would come on a platter, you would simply grab it, because these satisfy your hidden emotions!
  • Shun euphoria and hysteria, obsession and infatuation with fame and name, stars and royals, popularity and position. Color of their blood can never change to blue, to make them so distinct from you. If you don’t, damage is definite.
  • Go by only merit of people; not by their materialistic position and possession, regardless of who they are!
  • Whether we come from a famous background or fractured one, nature has given us identical opportunities – being elite by background is not essential; evolving self is of foremost essence. While evolving, we need to look at +ives first every time and pick same. Push as many –ives away as possible.

You would then become a benchmark, everyone else would like to emulate!

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