Success after success is not what impresses people; but failure after success or success after failure does! No story makes sense to people unless it is sensational, emotional or for worst, sexual. Look at wardrobe malfunction of celebrities; it would go viral in no time and attract anywhere near million clicks. But a sane script or scene would go a begging for even sixteen likes!!
Winston Churchill had his own vices; but those became virtues when given charge to manage crisis. It was World War II, which shot him to fame like never before. People highly respect and remember economists – Nouriel Roubini and Dean Baker for predicting doom from US Housing bubble and 2008 economic crisis; but not those, who have foretold or are predicting the boom times ahead!
Negativity sits right on our nose
If we get a call early in morning from our loved one, first thing that would occur to us something might have gone wrong! That is how negativity rules our mind!!
Nature appears symmetric; but it is not! To lose temper is easy; but not the opposite – to keep cool. All vices – anger, worry, frustration, corruption, obsession, rhetoric or greed are easy to pick and grip. These are like cache memory of a computer and would appear on a click or flick.
Rule of nature is that positive prompts a positive and a negative clicks the negative! The difference is as much as what is between prompt versus click. Prompt requires a further push to be there; whereas a click would just get you there.
Even so called golden age in human history was not free from villains and vices. It seems that we need them to understand the significance of heroes! It is not that most of us don’t understand that all of our problems – confusion to commotion come from our vices; yet we find it convenient to click same for making it viral. Then, why do we beat the chest and cry hoarse, when things go haywire? Is it not a normal part of our life?
It is precisely for above reasons that most believe – talking about (not taking to) virtues tantamount to washing away vices!
Poor sustainability while being positive
On other hand, when you are positive or virtuous, it brings success, gives growth and powers you to prominence. What is extremely important to know here is that getting success makes you also vulnerable! Your vulnerability comes from a simple fact that success brings you on the cross roads – one road, which requires constant push to remain positive and other one looks lucrative but turns you negative. Since vices are easy to follow, you fall or lean on the latter.
By and large, people have poor sustainability, when they start to get fruits from being positive. Look at innumerable names – Tiger Woods, Britney Spears or Rajat Gupta, they could not keep pace with the very virtues, which brought them to hallmark of success and fame.
So, it is this poor sustainability, which is the sole reason to put the virtues into spiral or spin. That is why, leaders turn laggards, confident ones become arrogant, being big becomes a bane and heavy-weights create hell for themselves! The cycle would reverse, if one pushes back for positivity.
Shattering the spiral
What you don’t crave, you tend to carve! That’s what we do, when we fall prey to our unconscious mind. This leads to living in the spiral of positives and negatives, highs and lows or ups and downs. If you wish to unshackle yourself from these, think of doing the following:
- Shun 1st reaction of your mind.
- Observe and evaluate 2nd and 3rd reactions or thoughts and then Go!
- Don’t do the mistake of following masses.
- Overdoing or multiplying positivity is actually negative! But, you can multiply negativity to become more negative!! Is that not interesting; but true?
Just remain positive. Most mistakes happen, when you overdo or under do.
- When your past memories make you emotional, believe it or not, you are negative.
- When you are neither offensive nor defensive, it is then that you are positive.
- Heaven may fall on the earth; but never believe that positivity can ever harm or hurt you.