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Why best of partners part their ways in worst manners!

abcGeorge Clooney, famed Hollywood actor was adjudged as one of the most eligible bachelors in the world, until he decided to tie the knot with Amal Alamuddin, an international and human rights lawyer, in September 2014. Press has written lot of love stories and quotes for the couple; but, it has now reported that their marriage is on the rocks. A more than decade old fairy tale like relationship of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie has completely fractured few months back. All the fanfare behind courtship and marriage of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West seems to be in doldrums.

Stories of Bollywood or Indian celebrities are no different – break-up of industrialist Nes Wadia and actress Preity Zinta, tennis player Leander Paes and actress Mahima Chaudhary, Sarika and Kamal Hasaan – both from film industry, actor Hrithik Roshan and interior designer Sussanne and so on.

Forget the celebrities, look at common people as partners, whom you believe as best in your neighborhood and you may discover that their partnership is not easy.

It seems to a very common feature that what ensue on the best nod ends on a worst note. What was prominent to start with, equally or more painful is to end with a relationship. It appears as if it is an order arranged by nature.

Our notion or definition for what makes it best is much fractured

Two very attractive faces, two equally and highly qualified spouses, two strong or influential personalities or pair from two famous families are perceived as best partners. But, history shows that such pairs cease to live at ease sooner and eventually break up sordidly.

Do you believe that two equally intelligent spouses, two tall partners or two accomplished persons in same profession co-exist congenially? They don’t; they face more disagreements than agreements since each one has his/her own ideas, which he/she would like to prevail with. Arguments fly high and disenchantment grows. It is like two identical polarities repelling each other.

Two best together cannot make best-square or ideal pair. Only when two persons complement each other by their characters and attributes, they make ideal combination. It means that if one is strong headed, other should be mild; if first one is extrovert, other one be introvert. If one is bright; other should be dull. And you would soon realize that it is not very appealing!

So, what is ideal?

The best pair or combination is what is individually balanced!

This is true of any form of relationship. If you want your honeymoon with a customer to last long, you on your part have to be balanced in your dealing – neither too cozy nor too curt.

Popularity or prominence is prone to prejudices

Everyone wants to be popular and be in public eyes. You soon start to enjoy your image and prestige. And, greed goes in your head and you get addicted to have more and more of prominence. This is the starting point of driving a divide between the pair. In initial period, one or both would not even realize or acknowledge that anything wrong is developing; this is stage of denial. By the time one or both wake up, it is already too late normally to normalize back.

So, too much public glare could be gloomy; your high image can lower intimacy with your partner; lot of fanfare about your relationship can turn into source of frustration.

One thing is very clear – if your choice is to build a relationship, you have to choose to banish your biases at all costs!

Partnership is more a game of compromises and not gaining command over each other.

Therefore, your private as well as professional life is at its best if you are balanced and free from biases!

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We are killing our Innovative & Creative character by living in silos!

Everyone has or can develop creative and innovative elements in her/his character; but these come to surface depending upon how strongly or loosely she/he is shackled in her/his paradigm. To be creative or innovative is fundamental to our success; we seldom realize this! From housewives to heads of corporates and countries need these, if they want to live a life, which is easy yet eventful; fun but fruitful!!

In corporate world, we have a common catchphrase or cliché – thinking out of the box or thinking outside of the box. It more refers to think differently and seek new and novel solutions. This very much needs innovative and creative nature; but, here we are talking of a major step forward – do it most time and see how life gets transformed! The need is to get out of whatever you want to call it – the box, compartment, cell, shell or silo – for good.

Some argue that how can we get out of the box, because there is no space outside. The moment we talk about a box, we logically or scientifically imply that there is space (in present context, not physical but a mental one) outside! It is this space, which gives us understanding of the shape or psychological feeling of the box; otherwise it would be something undefinable!!

What inhibits us to be Innovative and Creative!

There are no few factors –

  1. Hallmarks of our habits.
  2. Parochial personality.
  3. Needling notions.
  4. Hard perceptions.
  5. Throttling traits.
  6. Compartmentalized thinking
  7. Preconceived ideas.
  8. Rigid faith.
  9. Our obsession and possessiveness.
  10. Our doctrines and dogmas.
  11. Our anger and anxieties.

All of above push you into your own paradigm or silo.

Watch, who can drive you towards silo!

But, never blame them, because eventually it is always you who decides to get in silo or not.

  • Autocratic and dogmatic bosses.
  • Masters, who believe in creating “not masters”; but “followers”!
  • Ideologists.
  • Celebrities, who become your idol/s.
  • Seniors, who create fear factors.

Why your life needs Innovation and Creation

Life is all about Change. If you are dormant to Change, life would degenerate. The other option is to remain dynamic with life and then it would start to change dramatically. Believe that this would automatically induce you to be innovative. You would start to think differently; think a new and novel.

Another important aspect – you cannot be truly successful without being agile. Your agility would automatically lead to becoming innovative and creative. If you don’t, your perception that you are agile is false.

We can classify people in 3 categories:

  1. Dormant
    They are immune to Changes. They suffer from either stagnancy or hyperactivity within their silos. This gives rise to 2 extremes – docile or dictatorial classes of people.
  2. Dynamic
    They are most amenable and agile to Changes. Rich dividends chase them. For them, life has no boundaries. They truly enjoy freedom of thoughts and hence, are inherently innovative and creative in every sense.
    This category leads to development of real talent – artists, visionaries, change agents and innovators.
  3. Dithering
    They swing between dormancy and dynamism. They mostly live in the silo /cell of their paradigm and occasionally come out of it to show their solidarity for Change, Innovation and Creation. Then, they go back into their cell. This category produces mostly mediocre.

World has vast majority of category 3 and least of category 2.

What to do to abandon your silo!

  • Don’t do, what most do! Most are apparently mistaken; otherwise, they would have been free from failures or miseries.
  • Being innovative and creative is critical to your sustained success.
    Many times, you may hear “Oh, it is not necessary”; just ignore because it only reflects ignorance of who says so!
  • Innovativeness and creativity are not privileges of just few by virtue of their genes or genius! You CAN and should do it!
  • Key to these qualities is “not to live in silos”.
  • You need to have WILL; do not waste time to open the silo, just smash it in 1st attempt!
    If you cannot do in 1st instance, you would find it difficult to do it in 2nd or 3rd attempt. See “1-2-3 & Go”.
  • You would then have:
    • Freedom of thoughts!
    • Thinking big outside of the box!!
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