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It’s great to be good; but getting addicted to it is worse than addiction to bad

 

When leader turns a laggard!

When leader turns a laggard!

Highly successful individuals, industries or institutions suddenly come in limelight for a lame reason and their character or credentials take a severe beating. Among innumerable instances, current ones are Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt for their marital issues, Volkswagen for emission scandal and past ones are golf legend Tiger Woods, soccer star Diego Maradona, iconic companies like Dell and BlackBerry. In all of these cases, success brought successes and fame bought more feathers in their caps, but only to fall or fly apart.

Why is such story is so sacrosanct is every case?

When going is good, everyone has natural urge to have more of it. You see your success as vindication or validation of what you do. There is nothing wrong in this but slowly your mind abstains to see adverse implications of blind pursuit of good. I call this as “addiction to good”.

Why addiction to bad is a lesser evil

If you get addicted to anything that is bad, you would get early warning signals. Your bad behavior would raise eyebrows of your boss and buddies alike. Your bad habits would show up on your health and happiness. So, you receive lot of alarms when you do something that is not good and get opportunity to correct. If you don’t correct, you would end up with bigger crisis. That gives you last opportunity to resurrect or else ruin.

Why addiction to good is an enormous evil

When you do it right, everyone around you is there to endorse and enamor what you do. You start to get results. It turns into your passion. When you keep pursuing, it potentially turns into your obsession. Two things happen at this stage – (1) you build a blind belief on the approach that gave you success. Often there are errors in interpreting the parameters of this successful approach like picking emotions in place of inspiration, hard work instead of smart work and like and (2) you see your stakes soaring high socially and professionally.

You start to firmly believe, once right, you would always be right. You refuse to see incoming arrogance and overconfidence. Unsuccessful or unaware colleagues or masses start to idolize you, fueling your obsession further. This is the stage, you begin to inflict severe damage to social or corporate fabric with intelligence and resources that you have gathered. Your blessings turn into banes and you become victim of your own victories. Unless you face a severe setback, you are actually at a point of no return.

Are advanced societies becoming victim of addiction to good?

It very much seems so.

Advanced societies or countries in our world have had good run for substantial time, during which knowingly or unknowingly, they seem to taken decisions, adopted practices and policies, which helped them earlier but hurting them now. They are failing to fathom developing scenario. Addiction to good does give rise to right wing individuals, leaders and parties, if Brexit or US presidential election is any indication!

So, it is great to be good but gruesome to get addicted to it.

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“Blessings” or “Best Wishes” – which one gives better sense & strength!

Two terms “Blessings” and “Best Wishes” are used by us very frequently; but, very few might have realized real difference between these, though both are positive expressions of good thoughts from one person to another! If we can learn this difference, it can make a hell of a difference in our approach and attitude, in our ability to create impact and influence!

Blessings present inequality

Blessings are indicative of level difference between “seeker or receiver” and “giver”. Giver of blessings is recognized as more powerful, knowledgeable, respectable or elder, whereas seeker or receiver is believed not to have reached that level.

Seeking blessings shows humbleness of seeker. On the other hand, thought of giving blessing in mind of a giver boosts his/her ego. This is true except for God, though very difficult for giver to admit it. It is not easy for giver to resist temptation to have feeling of superiority and that kills the very spirit or strength of blessings!

Best Wishes represents equality

Best wishes signify and symbolize selflessness, harmony, empathy, understanding, and level play. It does not create any sense of superiority or inferiority.

Another very significant difference is that best wishes are not sought or solicited; these can only be given by giver!

Other key differences between Blessings and Best Wishes

  • Blessings prompt Give and Take; whereas Best Wishes promote only Giving!
  • There is always motive/s (physical attributes like longer or healthier life, alleviation from sufferings, more prosperity or power etc.) attached to Blessings; whereas only thing linked to latter is Goodness or Good feelings.
  • Contents of Blessings would vary from giver to giver; whereas Best Wishes uniformly crave for the best of things!

Key derivative

Blessings should be only prerogative of God (and may be of Elders, not for their power, popularity or position but for reasons for their age)! More meaningful are Best Wishes!!

By and large, we are bugged by our biases and therefore, it is rare that we offer best wishes to others from bottom of our heart. These come more from top of our lips and that is why we don’t experience their true value and strength.

Offer your sincere thoughts and feelings to others by your heart; you would witness phenomenal change in your happiness, motivation and confidence levels. Your hatred or hiccups for others would dissolve into sheer love and understanding!

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