Why on becoming wealthy, you tend to work either for Greed or God!

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Let us first understand meaning of wealthy here. It means anything which is in excess of your needs – be it money, means, wisdom, talent or skills.

There are very few, who inherit wealth in all forms. If someone inherits lot of money, he/she could be short of wisdom or skills, or vice versa. Dearth of wisdom would make him/her to squander the inherited money. Therefore, most of us race in our life to reach and acquire what we don’t have in adequate quantity. But, once we get that, do we stop racing? No, we don’t! We tend to raise the bar of our needs and consider it as new normal! We feel justified in doing so, forgetting that it is nothing but greed!!

So, majority of wealthy people is in race of greed and there are a small percentage of people, who are indeed engaged in godly acts like philanthropy, empathy, uplifting under privileged, helping others to become better and grow. In this small population of such people, there are 2 categories – (a) Those who consider it as their obligation to society and have no expectation in return (b) Those who do it for their gains like enhancing their business interests, saving of taxes through charity, becoming more visible and/or gaining popularity and publicity. Category (b) is actually nothing but greed, though shrouded under godly acts. It is only people in category (a) who are truly honest, god like and asset for the society.

World history shows long list of famous names as philanthropists, some of whom are Mother Teresa, Bill Gates – chairman of Microsoft, Michael Jackson and Jon Bon Jovi – both famous American rock stars, Warren Buffett – legendry US investor, George Clooney – Hollywood film star, Larry Ellison of Oracle Inc., Lady Gaga and Shahrukh Khan of Bollywood Films. It is up to you to judge who falls in category (a) and who in (b).

Greed comes in since our goals don’t go “beyond I”!

I have observed lot of people leading goalless life! They are often frustrated without knowing the cause!! It is because they lack direction and purpose in what they do in absence of goals. There are some, who just follow others without defining what is their passion and what they want to accomplish. Another set of people fixes goals, but not firmly and keep changing those without any rational reasons. Then there are others, who contemplate and consciously set the goals, what they want to pursue with passion.

In good companies, there is lot of emphasis, training and coaching for goal setting. But, there is one major flaw. It is all about setting goal around you but not beyond you! This is where greed kicks in.

Goal around you sets a limited purpose. Once you get it, then what? You become wealthy and you start raising bar of your needs. This is when maladies start to malign you. It enhances your ego and creates constant conflicts of interests.

If your goals go beyond you like grow my department or company by x%, build y no. of sub-ordinate as my back up or better than me etc., it brings enthralling and exclusive experience. With such goals, you don’t have worry about own your growth and rewards; these are guaranteed automatically! Look at the fine difference between “goal around you” and “goal beyond you”:

“I want to happy and healthy, so that I don’t have to depend upon anyone!”

Versus

“I want to be happy and healthy, to give happiness and help to ones, who are dependent on me!”

Going “beyond I” brings amazing advantages. Normally, it is difficult to visualize its virtues, unless you actually do it sincerely. Your vision touches new horizon; you discover a unique sense of purpose in your life and your confidence reaches a new climax!

Drawing a distinction between Greed and God-like!

Threshold in everyone’s life comes, when his/her essential needs are fulfilled. Beyond that, there are only two choices – greed or godly acts.

The distinction between the two choices is simple – greed is “all about I” and god-like is “all about others”!

Many tend to swing between the two, believing that latter would compensate for the former. That is not true. Fact is swinging or switching between the two in nothing but greed and often it brings more conflicts than comforts!

By greed, you go down. By grace of god-like acts, you only gain; gain what you have never dreamt!

By greed, you would collect more of what you already have. It would decay and degenerate. But, by engaging in god-like acts like love, compassion, sharing your wealth, wisdom, experience or skills with others, you would constantly renew, revitalize and rediscover what you have and add immense values!

Your connection to others is stark local as well as remote reality in scientific sense. Ignoring it is a worst ignorance of nature.

So, it is a 2 step decree to divine:

  1. Go “beyond I”!
  2. Give excess of what you have, to be God-like!!

What drives you – Incentive or Inspiration?

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Instantaneous response of majority would be that Inspiration is at the back of their drive; but in reality, it is Incentive!

Lot of people loves game of tambola (housie). If prizes of cash money are taken away, who would then like to play this game? Probably, none! So, is it liking for tambola or love for prizes?

I have seen lot of employees claiming that they are inspired to build their careers and competencies. But, that claim goes for a toss, if they don’t receive expected raise in salary and/or promotion. Fat variable pays or bonuses linked to performance have become a common practice with most companies across world. It is a key driver to achieve performance targets by employees, which is good! But, does that change the character and competence of an employee? It does not!

There are many powerful and pushy CEOs, under whose pressure employees lose sleep to strive and improve top and bottom lines of their companies! If employees perform, balance sheets of companies improve and so is shareholders’ value. That also results into increase in value of CEOs’ shareholding and bonuses!! It is difficult to figure out, how much interest in their own incentives encourages CEOs to push their employees or they do it out of their sacrosanct intentions or inspiration for good and growth of employees and company!

Few years back, I checked into a hotel of well-known international chain at Pittsburgh, USA. I was very pleased to see a slogan at reception – “Customer service is our inspiration”. It was a severe winter. In the middle of night, heating system of my room stopped working. Hotel front desk staff expressed their helplessness to repair it, as there was no technician available at that time nor they had any portable room heater. To my dismay, no vacant room was available. Next morning, I went to hotel general manager. He was very apologetic and tried to pacify me by waving off room charge for one night. I asked him is it how they are inspired by offering incentive to customers or do they really improve their services? He had no convincing answer to offer!

So, most of us tend to confuse drive due to incentive/s as inspiration!

How Incentive helps!

Incentive drives nearly whole world! Naturally, people see merits in incentives, some of which are:

  1. Incentive sets an objective target.
    It is the objective nature of incentive, which people are able to relate easily.
  2. Objective targets develop a desire to achieve.
    It is this desire, which creates a drive!
  3. It creates sense of purpose, though limited, and its direction.
    This brings great clarity in efforts required to get there.
  4. It promotes competitive spirit.
  5. It encourages team work, if target or incentive demands so.
  6. It induces hard work and faster learning.

How Incentive hurts!

But, drive by incentive has its down sides:

  1. Incentive is always aimed at you and hence, it creates paradigm of self-serving!
  2. When you get used to drive by incentive, then you lose self-drive.
    In practical life, all work cannot be incentive oriented. So, when incentive is absent, you tend to lay back or find your work monotonous.
  3. Incentive creates a limited purpose and hence your vision also becomes limited!
  4. For the risk of losing, you would be tempted to take known routes in your work and hence, your competencies would not broaden.
  5. If you lose incentive, despite your drive, your disappointment and disillusionment would be drastic and draining!
  6. It promotes total materialism!
  7. When you work for incentive, you have to brace for hope and despair, win and loss! Many times, quantum of incentive may not be commensurate with quantum of efforts required and you may then lose drive!!

How Inspiration changes the game!

There is copious confusion over what inspiration is! Many think it is motivation; some believe it is drive generated by emotions or incentives. It is none of these. Inspiration is a state of mind triggered by a singular thought to perform an activity or achieve a goal, which is beyond you. This state translates into unique focus and force with total dedication, decisiveness without any doubt, dithering or conflict of thoughts/interest!

Look at how inspiration makes a difference:

  1. Inspiration is a driving as well as a guiding force!
  2. It is impossible that inspiration can ever fail you to reach your goal!!
  3. It makes you supremely confident and conscious.
  4. Inspiration makes you highly innovative.
  5. It creates self-drive and makes you man of initiatives.
  6. Inspiration has positive influence on results of your efforts!
  7. When you are inspired, you don’t have to chase incentives; they chase you.
  8. As inspiration takes you “beyond you”, your vision becomes very broad.
  9. Your learning becomes very broad and solid.
  10. Inspiration invariably excels you in every endeavor you make!

World has plenty of motivational speakers and writers. But, the real need is for inspirational speakers and preachers. That would make our society very different and decent.

Inspiration is a true game changer! So, why not go for it and learn how to get inspired?

Is there any alternative to being fair and good?

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If a sub-ordinate commits a mistake, supervisor is up in arms, gets angry, reprimands, issues a warning and develops adverse opinion against him/her. On other hand, sub-ordinate reacts and regrets working under such boss. Both think that they are right in what they perceive and do! Issue escalates until a flash point, when the sub-ordinate gets transferred or resigns. If the supervisor is toxic, more of employees meet the same fate. When sub-ordinates become supervisors, they replicate behavior of their previous bosses, since that’s the legacy they have learnt!

If a child is mischievous or disobedient, most parents believe that only way to make him/her disciplined is to hand over punishment or time-out. Eventually, such children turn out to be tough nuts to crack, since they hardly learnt from their parents how to be patient and polite.

If it is governance of corporates or countries, it is more of identifying guilty and going after them, taking credit by discrediting others, tit for tat and not giving freedom for fear of losing it. Majority of management believes commands and reprimands are the best means to manage.

Do above traits and techniques yield results? The perpetrators obviously believe it does; but that is bunk!

Approaches and attempts that never fructify; but everyone keeps faith, albeit false!

You would be amazed to know that more than 80% of man’s actions world over are initiated by his reactions and additional at least 15% are after thoughts; but based on wrong notions and hence, all of these go awry! Some of the most commonly practiced or perceived are:

  1. Punctuality can be improved by punishing employees or helping hands.
  2. By rushing or being rash, you can recover lost time or glory.
  3. Mistakes can be corrected by critical of the one who committed.
  4. You can bring harmony by hating and detesting dissent or discontent.
  5. Grilling and drilling of a guilty would guarantee non-reoccurrence of guilt.
  6. Winning an argument is a sign of wisdom, rather than avoiding it!
  7. Slamming and shaming a shameless can make him sober!
  8. Saying sorry can soothe sore feelings.
  9. Through penalties, one can promote compliances.
  10. Effect of bad karma can be eliminated by good karma.
  11. By assuring jobs, regardless of merit or competence, you can bring social justice.
  12. It is a sign of strength to hold hands of strong and shrug off the weak.
  13. You can impress public by implicating your rivals.
  14. You can spread faith by force or fear.
  15. Democracy and freedom can flourish by winning wars.
  16. Terrorism and fundamentalism can be fought and finished by force.

Irony is doers of above are staunch believers that these work. What really works is something entirely different.

Short cuts sway humans!

Take example of stand-off between husband and wife, supervisor and sub-ordinate, political rivals, neighboring countries, they would be ever ready raise the pitch until a peak, when wiser counsel prevails on one of them and then they sit, talk and resolve. If they don’t do that, they can go to any extent to inflict damage and suffer.

Each party starts to believe that because it raised the pitch, the other one came to its senses. This is hogwash! Wiser counsel does exist in minds of both. It surfaces in one earlier than another because of several factors working in background. But, ego of each one gives credence to controversies rather than mutual communications and consent!

Most of us are slave to short cuts – first reaction, spontaneous emotions, showing off physical or political power. When we are overtaken by emotions, we don’t mind to pay a plum price; but when we are overwhelmed by rationale, we refuse to make a small sacrifice and buy in peace. Bitter but true that human race survives on brinkmanship – first get into crisis or controversy and when comes to knot, then resolve.

What works!

Bad has an alternative; but good has none! 

Regardless, who you are, how good or great you are, being bad or unfair by thoughts, taste or deeds can nothing but be bad for you. Someone else being bad does not qualify you to become bad. If you still so wish, you can be and make futile efforts and costly mistakes. God or divine force is not going to stop you and they would also not intervene when you pay a price; heavy at times!

It is ludicrous to try tryst with what is bad, because you can only lose!

So, do you agree that what pays is unstinted faith in being good and fair?

Also, please never get confused with plethora of definitions, terms or jargons for good and fair. It is as simple as:

  • Good is what makes you conscious and composed!
  • Fair is what frees you from fear and favors!!

Being poor in fulfilling promises makes you poorer!

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Statistics shows that 9 out of 10 people are poor in delivering promises. Nearly all of us are prompt in making promises, committing to do something; but when it comes to doing it, delivering it, we take a backseat. Promises could be as small as “I shall phone you back” or as significant as “I shall help you to develop and grow”. I have been frequently witnessing that way too many people commit or promise small or big things out of good intentions or emotions; but they hardly care to fulfill. Yes, when promises are self-serving or would help make money, those would be fulfilled promptly!

Promising people are those, who would fulfill what they commit at 1st very attempt! You would find that if you don’t do it when it is due 1st time, you may deliver it on 2nd occasion but with reluctance. If you fail on 2nd occasion, it would be harder for you doing it on 3rd one i.e. resistance. If by any chance you skip to deliver on 3rd occasion, you would go in reverse gear. Instead of delivering promise, you would deliver “excuse”! So, amazing rule of 1-2-3 & Go applies!!

If “considering promises casually” becomes a habit, worst casualty would be no one but you! On other hand, “drive to deliver what is promised” is one of the foundation pillars of true leadership!

Why people make promises which they don’t mean to deliver!

There are varieties of reasons why most are tempted to make false promises, primary reasons being:

  1. To create good impression, especially on bosses, beloved or buddies
    Political class would do it to masses.
  2. For one-up man ship over bête noire or rival
  3. For fear of offending a person or being seen in bad light
  4. To avoid arguments
  5. Yielding under pressure or compulsions
  6. Under bout of emotions
  7. Out of superficial respect or empty obligation

Naturally, people find it difficult to deliver promises made under above situations and therefore, they make easy escape routes through excuses! 

Managing or mismanaging promises reflects make up of a person!

It is very important to understand that the manner in which one commits or promises and then fulfill his/her obligations has a lot to do with personality of that person. Here below are some clues:

  1. Men, who make and honor nearly 100% of their promises!
    Population of such people is not big – probably less than 5 %. Highlights of their characters are:
    1. They would not rush to make a promise. They would contemplate first and then make it consciously.
    2. If they cannot deliver a promise given, they would revert back in advance, share reasons about their inability to fulfill and be apologetic for same!
    3. They are consistent and persistent!
    4. They are upright and sincere.
    5. They are decent and dependable.
    6. They are confident and eloquent!
    7. They are committed and caring!
    8. They are highly successful and prosperous!
  2. People, who deliver some and dodge some!
    Such people are in majority and you can watch out for the following:
    1. They pretend to be serious in making promises.
    2. They are emotional and deceptive at the same time!
    3. They have split personality.
    4. What they talk would not walk.
    5. They are extra humble many times but hollow from inside.
    6. They are opportunist and therefore, can bend easily, which most people or companies confuse as flexibility!
    7. They appear sensitive on surface; but vindictive underneath.
    8. They are political and play games.
      They change color like a chameleon – one for making promise, another for delivering and third for avoiding it!
  3. Men, who can promise a moon but deliver miniscule!
    Their number is not small; but less than category 2 above and far more than category 1.
    1. They are ever eager to make promises and that too promptly.
    2. They are boisterous and loud talkers.
    3. They can laugh a lot and heavily!
      One can easily confuse them as jovial!!
    4. They reflect overconfidence, which is often misunderstood as expertise by companies or communities.
    5. They appear extra respectful; but could be equally revengeful in disguise! 
  4. People, who hesitate to promise and deliver!
    There number is next down the line after category 3; but their personality is opposite:
    1. It is not easy to extract promises or commitment from such people.
    2. They lack courage, conviction and commitment!
    3. They are short on initiative and usually introvert.
    4. They are pessimists.
    5. They communicate less.
    6. They lack transparency and consistency.

Be a person of promise!

So, it is very poor idea to be poor in fulfilling promises to self and anyone else! Delivering promise, be determined, dedicated, committed and resolute are part of same trait, without which leadership qualities just can’t survive! So:

  • Never rush to make a promise.
  • Make promise, what you can deliver.
    It is best to make written note of all promises, you have made and review time to time to monitor your performance.
  • If you realize anytime that you can’t make it or would be delayed, go back immediately to concerned person and make him/her aware with apologies.
  • Deliver 100% of your promises on 1st occasion or attempt.

If you want to stand out of the crowd and establish/enhance your credibility, your natural choice should fall on “Being a Person of Promise”!

Is your future or fortune predefined; can same be predicted accurately?

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Biggest worry of a man is his future – what would or can happen to me or those dear to me! This worry converts into curiosity. Deep desire in predicting future or fortune has led to development of several subjects or techniques like astrology, palmistry, numerology, zodiac signs, tarot reading and several more. Practitioners of such techniques claim accuracy of these. They believe future of every individual is already defined from the time of birth! Leave alone individuals; they include company, community, city or even country in their forecasts for future e.g. date and exact time of a country’s independence plays a key role in determining its progress or perils!

Would it not be a wonderful idea, if a scientist can know in advance outcome of his/her research; a student can know in beginning of a year the result of his/her examinations or a company can know how would its balance sheet look like 5 years from hence!

Fallacies around foretelling!

If anything can be predicted accurately, it does mean that it has been predefined. If that be the case, then a student foretold about his success should get it, even if he does not study. But, that would not work! If a businessman has been told that he would make lot of money in the running year, then he should earn it without even doing business. Again, that looks impossible.

It clearly implies that your future is not predefined. All of foretelling techniques demand that you make efforts as usual – sweat, toil or take risks. Whatever you would do, outcome would be either success or failure. These techniques seem to just pick one of the 2 probabilities.

Few years back, one of my relatives told me about a doctorate scientist, who also practiced astrology as his hobby and made very accurate predictions. I requested my relative if he could arrange my meeting with him. When I met him, I requested him to tell me what exactly is behind astrology and is it really scientifically sacrosanct?

He told me confidentially that when he meets his client, in first few sentences of conversation, he is able to, by his gut feel or instincts, figure out his/her strengths and weaknesses. From astrology, he has learnt how to relate some tendencies of events, which happens to a person, by positions of planets. He was not sure whether there is any scientific truth behind that. From these 2 aspects, he arrives at his best judgment (or guess) and conveys it to client as forecast of his future!

Technique of “future or fortune telling” seems more about the way of telling it!

Does it sound weird? But, it is true!

If you closely observe, you would find 2 characteristics invariably in what you are foretold – (a) one who tells does it very confidently and (b) language used is such that it can be interpreted more than one ways.

Eagerness or anxiety to know future is a mental weakness. So, above way of foretelling is most likely to go down in your head firmly and easily become your belief. If you are told that this year is not good for your health, you would start noticing how often you are falling sick, forgetting how often you are feeling well. Your conviction in what has been foretold makes you conscious and that becomes the onset of more issues. Even if you are not falling sick more often than prior years, you would tend to believe it so!

You fail to fathom what is “Now or Present”; so how can you figure out future?

Now, this is for real! This is scientific!! Be open to believe it.

No one can ever state what is “Now or Present”! “Now” can only be experienced; but cannot be told!! By the time you get ready, however fast, to tell what is now, it becomes past!!

Everything that you tell is actually a past. So, where comes future from? Science i.e. physics has not been able a get any grip of future so far. All mathematical calculations, astronomical observations or thoughts about future that we contemplate or comprehend are permutations and combinations of past images or information!

Here is a new revelation from my research – “There is nothing like Future that exists at this moment or now!” None of scientific experiments has been able to find future. Yes, it can talk of current trends or tendencies and compute what and where an object would position as the time passes by. Note that it is a computation by mind or math.; but not a future by itself. Feeling of future comes when we migrate from present event to next event; but it does not mean the said next event already pre-existed as future!

Classified Conclusions

  • There is no place in Universe, where “Future” is located or has been predefined.
    Therefore, to claim that future can be foretold is not correct.
  • 100% of what we talk or discuss is “Past”!
    Past is nothing but images or information stored in our brain.
  • Now or present tense can only be experienced.
  • Past brings pleasures and pains; highs and lows!
    But, it is present that makes you happy and hopeful!!
  • There is nothing like future.
    It is just a term, which we use to define our thoughts which did not exist in our past; but we use our past to create such thoughts!
    One can only assess or compute probabilities and trends for upcoming events, which we construe as future!!
  • What we think, do or experience now determines what would happen next, which we call as future!
    Nearly all of us have very coarse knowledge of what are we thinking and doing now!!

So, we need to live by and know “Now” to fathom the “Future”.