Is there any alternative to being fair and good?

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If a sub-ordinate commits a mistake, supervisor is up in arms, gets angry, reprimands, issues a warning and develops adverse opinion against him/her. On other hand, sub-ordinate reacts and regrets working under such boss. Both think that they are right in what they perceive and do! Issue escalates until a flash point, when the sub-ordinate gets transferred or resigns. If the supervisor is toxic, more of employees meet the same fate. When sub-ordinates become supervisors, they replicate behavior of their previous bosses, since that’s the legacy they have learnt!

If a child is mischievous or disobedient, most parents believe that only way to make him/her disciplined is to hand over punishment or time-out. Eventually, such children turn out to be tough nuts to crack, since they hardly learnt from their parents how to be patient and polite.

If it is governance of corporates or countries, it is more of identifying guilty and going after them, taking credit by discrediting others, tit for tat and not giving freedom for fear of losing it. Majority of management believes commands and reprimands are the best means to manage.

Do above traits and techniques yield results? The perpetrators obviously believe it does; but that is bunk!

Approaches and attempts that never fructify; but everyone keeps faith, albeit false!

You would be amazed to know that more than 80% of man’s actions world over are initiated by his reactions and additional at least 15% are after thoughts; but based on wrong notions and hence, all of these go awry! Some of the most commonly practiced or perceived are:

  1. Punctuality can be improved by punishing employees or helping hands.
  2. By rushing or being rash, you can recover lost time or glory.
  3. Mistakes can be corrected by critical of the one who committed.
  4. You can bring harmony by hating and detesting dissent or discontent.
  5. Grilling and drilling of a guilty would guarantee non-reoccurrence of guilt.
  6. Winning an argument is a sign of wisdom, rather than avoiding it!
  7. Slamming and shaming a shameless can make him sober!
  8. Saying sorry can soothe sore feelings.
  9. Through penalties, one can promote compliances.
  10. Effect of bad karma can be eliminated by good karma.
  11. By assuring jobs, regardless of merit or competence, you can bring social justice.
  12. It is a sign of strength to hold hands of strong and shrug off the weak.
  13. You can impress public by implicating your rivals.
  14. You can spread faith by force or fear.
  15. Democracy and freedom can flourish by winning wars.
  16. Terrorism and fundamentalism can be fought and finished by force.

Irony is doers of above are staunch believers that these work. What really works is something entirely different.

Short cuts sway humans!

Take example of stand-off between husband and wife, supervisor and sub-ordinate, political rivals, neighboring countries, they would be ever ready raise the pitch until a peak, when wiser counsel prevails on one of them and then they sit, talk and resolve. If they don’t do that, they can go to any extent to inflict damage and suffer.

Each party starts to believe that because it raised the pitch, the other one came to its senses. This is hogwash! Wiser counsel does exist in minds of both. It surfaces in one earlier than another because of several factors working in background. But, ego of each one gives credence to controversies rather than mutual communications and consent!

Most of us are slave to short cuts – first reaction, spontaneous emotions, showing off physical or political power. When we are overtaken by emotions, we don’t mind to pay a plum price; but when we are overwhelmed by rationale, we refuse to make a small sacrifice and buy in peace. Bitter but true that human race survives on brinkmanship – first get into crisis or controversy and when comes to knot, then resolve.

What works!

Bad has an alternative; but good has none! 

Regardless, who you are, how good or great you are, being bad or unfair by thoughts, taste or deeds can nothing but be bad for you. Someone else being bad does not qualify you to become bad. If you still so wish, you can be and make futile efforts and costly mistakes. God or divine force is not going to stop you and they would also not intervene when you pay a price; heavy at times!

It is ludicrous to try tryst with what is bad, because you can only lose!

So, do you agree that what pays is unstinted faith in being good and fair?

Also, please never get confused with plethora of definitions, terms or jargons for good and fair. It is as simple as:

  • Good is what makes you conscious and composed!
  • Fair is what frees you from fear and favors!!

Being poor in fulfilling promises makes you poorer!

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Statistics shows that 9 out of 10 people are poor in delivering promises. Nearly all of us are prompt in making promises, committing to do something; but when it comes to doing it, delivering it, we take a backseat. Promises could be as small as “I shall phone you back” or as significant as “I shall help you to develop and grow”. I have been frequently witnessing that way too many people commit or promise small or big things out of good intentions or emotions; but they hardly care to fulfill. Yes, when promises are self-serving or would help make money, those would be fulfilled promptly!

Promising people are those, who would fulfill what they commit at 1st very attempt! You would find that if you don’t do it when it is due 1st time, you may deliver it on 2nd occasion but with reluctance. If you fail on 2nd occasion, it would be harder for you doing it on 3rd one i.e. resistance. If by any chance you skip to deliver on 3rd occasion, you would go in reverse gear. Instead of delivering promise, you would deliver “excuse”! So, amazing rule of 1-2-3 & Go applies!!

If “considering promises casually” becomes a habit, worst casualty would be no one but you! On other hand, “drive to deliver what is promised” is one of the foundation pillars of true leadership!

Why people make promises which they don’t mean to deliver!

There are varieties of reasons why most are tempted to make false promises, primary reasons being:

  1. To create good impression, especially on bosses, beloved or buddies
    Political class would do it to masses.
  2. For one-up man ship over bête noire or rival
  3. For fear of offending a person or being seen in bad light
  4. To avoid arguments
  5. Yielding under pressure or compulsions
  6. Under bout of emotions
  7. Out of superficial respect or empty obligation

Naturally, people find it difficult to deliver promises made under above situations and therefore, they make easy escape routes through excuses! 

Managing or mismanaging promises reflects make up of a person!

It is very important to understand that the manner in which one commits or promises and then fulfill his/her obligations has a lot to do with personality of that person. Here below are some clues:

  1. Men, who make and honor nearly 100% of their promises!
    Population of such people is not big – probably less than 5 %. Highlights of their characters are:
    1. They would not rush to make a promise. They would contemplate first and then make it consciously.
    2. If they cannot deliver a promise given, they would revert back in advance, share reasons about their inability to fulfill and be apologetic for same!
    3. They are consistent and persistent!
    4. They are upright and sincere.
    5. They are decent and dependable.
    6. They are confident and eloquent!
    7. They are committed and caring!
    8. They are highly successful and prosperous!
  2. People, who deliver some and dodge some!
    Such people are in majority and you can watch out for the following:
    1. They pretend to be serious in making promises.
    2. They are emotional and deceptive at the same time!
    3. They have split personality.
    4. What they talk would not walk.
    5. They are extra humble many times but hollow from inside.
    6. They are opportunist and therefore, can bend easily, which most people or companies confuse as flexibility!
    7. They appear sensitive on surface; but vindictive underneath.
    8. They are political and play games.
      They change color like a chameleon – one for making promise, another for delivering and third for avoiding it!
  3. Men, who can promise a moon but deliver miniscule!
    Their number is not small; but less than category 2 above and far more than category 1.
    1. They are ever eager to make promises and that too promptly.
    2. They are boisterous and loud talkers.
    3. They can laugh a lot and heavily!
      One can easily confuse them as jovial!!
    4. They reflect overconfidence, which is often misunderstood as expertise by companies or communities.
    5. They appear extra respectful; but could be equally revengeful in disguise! 
  4. People, who hesitate to promise and deliver!
    There number is next down the line after category 3; but their personality is opposite:
    1. It is not easy to extract promises or commitment from such people.
    2. They lack courage, conviction and commitment!
    3. They are short on initiative and usually introvert.
    4. They are pessimists.
    5. They communicate less.
    6. They lack transparency and consistency.

Be a person of promise!

So, it is very poor idea to be poor in fulfilling promises to self and anyone else! Delivering promise, be determined, dedicated, committed and resolute are part of same trait, without which leadership qualities just can’t survive! So:

  • Never rush to make a promise.
  • Make promise, what you can deliver.
    It is best to make written note of all promises, you have made and review time to time to monitor your performance.
  • If you realize anytime that you can’t make it or would be delayed, go back immediately to concerned person and make him/her aware with apologies.
  • Deliver 100% of your promises on 1st occasion or attempt.

If you want to stand out of the crowd and establish/enhance your credibility, your natural choice should fall on “Being a Person of Promise”!

Is your future or fortune predefined; can same be predicted accurately?

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Biggest worry of a man is his future – what would or can happen to me or those dear to me! This worry converts into curiosity. Deep desire in predicting future or fortune has led to development of several subjects or techniques like astrology, palmistry, numerology, zodiac signs, tarot reading and several more. Practitioners of such techniques claim accuracy of these. They believe future of every individual is already defined from the time of birth! Leave alone individuals; they include company, community, city or even country in their forecasts for future e.g. date and exact time of a country’s independence plays a key role in determining its progress or perils!

Would it not be a wonderful idea, if a scientist can know in advance outcome of his/her research; a student can know in beginning of a year the result of his/her examinations or a company can know how would its balance sheet look like 5 years from hence!

Fallacies around foretelling!

If anything can be predicted accurately, it does mean that it has been predefined. If that be the case, then a student foretold about his success should get it, even if he does not study. But, that would not work! If a businessman has been told that he would make lot of money in the running year, then he should earn it without even doing business. Again, that looks impossible.

It clearly implies that your future is not predefined. All of foretelling techniques demand that you make efforts as usual – sweat, toil or take risks. Whatever you would do, outcome would be either success or failure. These techniques seem to just pick one of the 2 probabilities.

Few years back, one of my relatives told me about a doctorate scientist, who also practiced astrology as his hobby and made very accurate predictions. I requested my relative if he could arrange my meeting with him. When I met him, I requested him to tell me what exactly is behind astrology and is it really scientifically sacrosanct?

He told me confidentially that when he meets his client, in first few sentences of conversation, he is able to, by his gut feel or instincts, figure out his/her strengths and weaknesses. From astrology, he has learnt how to relate some tendencies of events, which happens to a person, by positions of planets. He was not sure whether there is any scientific truth behind that. From these 2 aspects, he arrives at his best judgment (or guess) and conveys it to client as forecast of his future!

Technique of “future or fortune telling” seems more about the way of telling it!

Does it sound weird? But, it is true!

If you closely observe, you would find 2 characteristics invariably in what you are foretold – (a) one who tells does it very confidently and (b) language used is such that it can be interpreted more than one ways.

Eagerness or anxiety to know future is a mental weakness. So, above way of foretelling is most likely to go down in your head firmly and easily become your belief. If you are told that this year is not good for your health, you would start noticing how often you are falling sick, forgetting how often you are feeling well. Your conviction in what has been foretold makes you conscious and that becomes the onset of more issues. Even if you are not falling sick more often than prior years, you would tend to believe it so!

You fail to fathom what is “Now or Present”; so how can you figure out future?

Now, this is for real! This is scientific!! Be open to believe it.

No one can ever state what is “Now or Present”! “Now” can only be experienced; but cannot be told!! By the time you get ready, however fast, to tell what is now, it becomes past!!

Everything that you tell is actually a past. So, where comes future from? Science i.e. physics has not been able a get any grip of future so far. All mathematical calculations, astronomical observations or thoughts about future that we contemplate or comprehend are permutations and combinations of past images or information!

Here is a new revelation from my research – “There is nothing like Future that exists at this moment or now!” None of scientific experiments has been able to find future. Yes, it can talk of current trends or tendencies and compute what and where an object would position as the time passes by. Note that it is a computation by mind or math.; but not a future by itself. Feeling of future comes when we migrate from present event to next event; but it does not mean the said next event already pre-existed as future!

Classified Conclusions

  • There is no place in Universe, where “Future” is located or has been predefined.
    Therefore, to claim that future can be foretold is not correct.
  • 100% of what we talk or discuss is “Past”!
    Past is nothing but images or information stored in our brain.
  • Now or present tense can only be experienced.
  • Past brings pleasures and pains; highs and lows!
    But, it is present that makes you happy and hopeful!!
  • There is nothing like future.
    It is just a term, which we use to define our thoughts which did not exist in our past; but we use our past to create such thoughts!
    One can only assess or compute probabilities and trends for upcoming events, which we construe as future!!
  • What we think, do or experience now determines what would happen next, which we call as future!
    Nearly all of us have very coarse knowledge of what are we thinking and doing now!!

So, we need to live by and know “Now” to fathom the “Future”.

Can your Genes make you Genius?

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Is ability to become a genius a genetic phenomenon? None from family of Albert Einstein, who was undoubtedly one of the greatest geniuses, parents or grandparents, was known to be genius in any field. From his first wife, who also studied science, he had 1 daughter and 2 sons. But, none of Einstein’s children did anything spectacular in their profession. Another notable genius – Isaac Newton had his parents with farming background and none in his family tree showed any sign of being genius. He did not get married.

Statistically, children of most geniuses that history has produced seem to be mediocre! It appears rare that a genius has given birth to another genius!!

So, what makes a genius?

Genes are only good to trigger a set of tendencies!

Can your genes predetermine what would be your character and competencies? Biology or physiology does not have a clear answer. Latest research shows that genes or DNA does have effect on your tendencies; but, these can undergo a change depending upon the environments, in which you grow or by practice, you could effect a change!

So, genes may prompt a person to have tendency of being creative, hyperactive possessive or destructive. A child of a scientist could be creative as well as possessive and could turn out to be a fashion designer. However, possessive tendency may not make her/him a genius or extra-ordinary, unless she/he endeavors to dilute this tendency!

Do geniuses have to be eccentric or abnormal?

There is a misconception in minds of many that a normal human being can’t be a genius. Paradoxically, historical data shows that most geniuses tend to be abnormal in their behavior. Problem essentially crops up from the fact that a genius tends to be highly passionate or even obsessed and insanely engaged with his/her field of activity to the extent that he/she starts to ignore feelings of other people and other attributes of a good life. This makes them isolated, unfriendly or uncanny!

To my knowledge, if a genius has balanced life and vibe, he/she would be far more effective and efficient! So, we need to drop the notion that a genius is likely to be eccentric; but to have unconventional thinking or style is perfectly in order!!

Can an average level IQ make you genius?

Contrary to popular belief, intelligence or IQ level has nothing to do with ingenuity! A genius would mostly likely not score high number in IQ test. In other words, a high IQ person is unlikely to be a genius! And ironically as also historically, emotional intelligence – EQ of a genius also tends to be low!!

Low IQ and EQ levels are what make a person ordinary! So, there is no reason why an ordinary person cannot be a genius!! But…. here below is the real catch:

  1. Science has so far not been able to figure out what makes a genius!
    It is busy measuring dimensions of parietal lobe of cerebral cortex and some other parts of human brain. They have done this for Einstein post his demise!!
    But, through this article, you have possibility to fathom how genius comes.
  2. Genius does not reside in genes, but in mind!
    But ironically, science does not know where exactly resides mind!!
    And, every normal human being has same power of mind!!!
  3. To be genius:
    1. You need no preconceived notion!
    2. You need to disbelieve known beliefs.
    3. You need to go off-track.
    4. You need to think freely, yet focus within a predefined perimeter.
    5. You need to be free from fear and fallacies.
    6. You need to think diverse but dedicatedly.
    7. You need to be passionate, but never prisoner of your own or others’ thoughts.
    8. You need to believe in impossible.
    9. You need to have deep sense of a purpose and single minded pursuit!

Now, choose an area you want to be genius in!

How good is to serve same employer life time?

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Those, who serve an employer for long time, hesitate to ask this question to self or others! And those, who keep hopping from one to another employer, obviously don’t want to ask this question. Irony is that all of us want to be under the illusion of belief that what we are doing is good!!

There are several large multinational or iconic organizations, to name a few – General Electric, Siemens, IBM and Exxon Mobil, which most employees enter after their education and exit only on retirement. They cannot imagine their life outside of such organizations.

How good is getting addicted to what you consider as good?

Blessings of serving an employer for long term or life time!

  1. You get fully accustomed to company culture and values.
  2. You gain formidable expertise in the way company operates.
  3. Higher job security.
  4. You gain trust and respect of company management.
  5. Company considers you as dependable and loyal.

Banes of sticking to one employer!

  1. You get too much used to what you have been doing and hence, would be averse to changes.
    This would put you into comfort zone and its consequent perils.
  2. If you are dynamic and diligent, you would be hungry for changes, which same organization may not be able to offer at least in the time frame, you may aspire or desire.
    This would bring you into conflict with your seniors and you would lose congenial work environment.
  3. Often, you would lose opportunities to those, who are equally or even less good performers but more likely to quit the organization. Management of companies always prefer to retain them, ironical though! At that time, you would feel hurt that you are being taken as granted and your loyalty is of little value!
  4. If your career path, if worked out by company, does not foresee eventual promotion to one of top executive positions, you definitely run the risk of being sidelined in due course.
  5. You would be prone to get drawn in company politics.
  6. You would tend to be conservative and risk averse.
  7. Time would make you aloof from outside corporate world and market dynamics.
  8. Your overall personality development would take a severe beating.
  9. At a later stage of employment, your intimate knowledge of how company operates would be treated more as liability than asset by your management!
  10. Over time, you would create more adversaries than admirers!

What can make one employer tick!

If the organization you serve is large in size, transnational, has multiple vertical businesses and your management is progressive in developing employees, rewarding for their loyalty through opportunities and job rotation, then sticking to one and same employer could click.

You have to be careful in evaluating above factors. There is lot of lip service in the name of career opportunities and job rotation. If you are too good in certain function/s, your reward could be that you stay put there!

Ideal course for an employee!

Don’t stick around at one place for too long. You are bound to lose respect and race!

Life is all about Change! Change brings you colossal possibilities. 

Set your goals where you want to be in a defined time frame and make sure that every step that you take is an incremental movement in direction of your goal/s. Focus on being smart and savvy, persistent and passionate.Then, any employer can turn out to be the best for you and you should give your best to employer. Demand duties commensurate with your competence and deliver results. If everything works well, continue to deliver but not more than about 10 years and then seek change to a new employer; but leave current one with grace and on a good note. Gain experience with 2 to 4 employers.

Now is the time to introspect. Be rational and not emotional in giving merit rating to employers you have served. Communicate with no.1 rated employer and see the possibility of joining him back or otherwise his competitor no.1!

If you do the above, your stake and stock would see multifold rise!